Communication 101   My Mate won’t talk!

·         Research says that 50% of wives have un communicating husbands

·         The purpose of marriage Genesis 2:18, 24

·         Unity                 Oneness                  Sharing life

·         The necessity of communication I Corinthians 2:11

·         Only you know you

·         How to communicate II Corinthians 6:11-13

·         Communication is basically an act of the will

·         Personality types

o        Type A—the dead sea

o        Type B—Babbling brook

·         Levels of communication

o        Day to day events—tell me 3 things that happened today and how you feel about them

o        Decision making

o        When conflict arises—deal with anger

§         Take a temporary time out and that may keep you from sinning

·         Proverbs 30:33

·         Ephesians 4:26

§         Examine your anger

o        Take turns talking and do not interrupt

o        Practice listening when your spouse is talking

o        Listen to facts and feelings

o        Seek to understand

o        Express understanding—what you are saying makes a lot of sense

o        Ask—what can I do to help—how can we solve the problem

·         Overcoming barriers to communication

o        Learn his or her interest

o        Ask his or her advice

o        Check your own output

o        Share a book, share what you learn about yourself

o        Apologize

o        Meet sexual needs

o        Pray together—when you do talk to God and not to each other

·         Communication techniques

o        Repeat for clarity—are you saying

o        Rate your feelings from 0 to 10